Jump to content
You are a guest user Click to join the site

Welcome Guest

Welcome to drugbuyersguide, like most online communities you must register to view or post in our community, but don't worry this is a simple free process that requires minimal information for you to signup. Be apart of Drug Buyers Guide Forum by signing in or creating an account.

  • Start new topics and reply to others
  • Subscribe to topics and forums to get email updates
  • Get your own profile page and make new friends
  • Send personal messages to other members.

Some How Wasent Paying Attention And Lost My Fiance


freesmok

Recommended Posts

  • Sapphire Sponsor

  • Group:  Sapphire Sponsor
  • Topic Count:  0
  • Content Count:  90
  • Reputation:   14
  • Joined:  11/13/2012
  • Status:  Offline
  • Last Seen:  

Came home to nothing the other day but a note telling me I got the boot......If anything I can say im very confused........Id probally try to undo this but she changed her #.........Definetly the strangest thing thats ever happened.....This might be a bad dream or a really bad life experience........I guess all I can say is WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!..........I gotta remember to stay away from girls fresh outta rehab and no,I dont believe you can change people that need meds for things out of your control.......sorry for blabbing on

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • Replies 32
  • Created
  • Last Reply
  • Members
RainyDayPeacefulMind

  • Group:  Members
  • Topic Count:  0
  • Content Count:  64
  • Reputation:   7
  • Joined:  03/10/2013
  • Status:  Offline
  • Last Seen:  

OMG I am really sorry to hear this. God always knows whats best for us though, and I know this means he just has somebody better for your life. You may not see it now but everything always comes together in the end.. At least she saved you any more heart ache. 

Link to comment
Share on other sites

The Shattered Soldier

  • Group:  Spammers
  • Topic Count:  0
  • Content Count:  1,161
  • Reputation:   699
  • Joined:  04/13/2012
  • Status:  Offline
  • Last Seen:  

Came home to nothing the other day but a note telling me I got the boot......If anything I can say im very confused........Id probally try to undo this but she changed her #.........Definetly the strangest thing thats ever happened.....This might be a bad dream or a really bad life experience........I guess all I can say is WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!..........I gotta remember to stay away from girls fresh outta rehab and no,I dont believe you can change people that need meds for things out of your control.......sorry for blabbing on

 

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation.  It has to be gut wrenchingly frustrating to have soembody just up and disappear on you like that.  I couldn't imagine having the emotional capacity to deal with such a situation, it must be extremely hard for you to hold it together right now.  The only advice I can give you based on what you've written is to try not to dive into the substances too hard over this and keep a clear head.  As for blabbing on, there's no need to apologize, there are some of us here who can read pages of venting and ranting.  This isn't your typical drug forum, we're here to help and support you if you need it.  Please keep us updated on the situation.  Until then, you'll be in my thoughts.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • V.I.P Member

  • Group:  V.I.P Member
  • Topic Count:  0
  • Content Count:  716
  • Reputation:   218
  • Joined:  12/12/2012
  • Status:  Offline
  • Last Seen:  

I stayed with my wife about 12 yrs and she has serious MH problems. I'd get a call at work asking if I would bring her clothes so she could check in,  and some Chinese food too. The first few times I was too caring I suppose, bringing chocolate covered strawberries and hoping things would mend quick. 

 

So while working 12-14 hours I'd need to keep the house clean and take food, flowers and cards to her. 

 

I don't really even want to talk about how used I felt seeing her joking with others in the ward, then turning sullen an depressed after she saw I was there with her food and other things. I never did anything but try to help her, looking back I guess my drive made me think our roll in the hay was good for both of us. I even offered to move or let her move if I was causing her problems. While off on workmen's comp I didn't see where it might hurt to let her have some fun on vacation. Then weeks later she confessed to spending time with an illegal. I just wished he had offered to take her with him, but I would have been worried about her even then, so things worked out for the best.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • Members
SwedishChef1977

  • Group:  Members
  • Topic Count:  0
  • Content Count:  298
  • Reputation:   25
  • Joined:  03/20/2013
  • Status:  Offline
  • Last Seen:  

Homie we got this ....I'm down the road u no I just went through the same BS but my girl went lezbo ,u need to talk u got my #### ..In the meantime lets get this ball rolling....keep ur head up my man c u soon ...pzzzzzzz

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • Sapphire Sponsor

  • Group:  Sapphire Sponsor
  • Topic Count:  0
  • Content Count:  90
  • Reputation:   14
  • Joined:  11/13/2012
  • Status:  Offline
  • Last Seen:  

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation.  It has to be gut wrenchingly frustrating to have soembody just up and disappear on you like that.  I couldn't imagine having the emotional capacity to deal with such a situation, it must be extremely hard for you to hold it together right now.  The only advice I can give you based on what you've written is to try not to dive into the substances too hard over this and keep a clear head.  As for blabbing on, there's no need to apologize, there are some of us here who can read pages of venting and ranting.  This isn't your typical drug forum, we're here to help and support you if you need it.  Please keep us updated on the situation.  Until then, you'll be in my thoughts.

thanks for the support.........it definetly sucks but im old enough not to get too effd up.........shes an10 year ex-marine , combat vet with pdsd and i just wish i made her go to Vets Hospital........I feel so sorry all the Vets in this country ...cause nobody gets it but them........I watched her everytime  shee got really stressed she'd go bonkers and push the people that really cared about her away....namly me.......and id try to just be supportive and deal with it....but i shoulda made her go.      In my long life of substance my only regret is this!!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • Sapphire Sponsor

  • Group:  Sapphire Sponsor
  • Topic Count:  0
  • Content Count:  90
  • Reputation:   14
  • Joined:  11/13/2012
  • Status:  Offline
  • Last Seen:  

If anybody has combat vets in there family or have a loved one who is realize that pdsd is a serious thing and nobody understands what our vets have been thru except other vets......just watch for little signs....it might be huge and wild at first but even tho they might calm down it never really goes away.....Now im 100% not qualified to say anything about anything,but all I know are the things she told me late at night when me and her would just talk.........all im sayin is take care of our vets.....especially combat vet.......thanks for the support everybody

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • Sapphire Sponsor

  • Group:  Sapphire Sponsor
  • Topic Count:  0
  • Content Count:  90
  • Reputation:   14
  • Joined:  11/13/2012
  • Status:  Offline
  • Last Seen:  

Homie we got this ....I'm down the road u no I just went through the same BS but my girl went lezbo ,u need to talk u got my #### ..In the meantime lets get this ball rolling....keep ur head up my man c u soon ...pzzzzzzz

hopefully ill see you later

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • V.I.P Member

  • Group:  V.I.P Member
  • Topic Count:  0
  • Content Count:  716
  • Reputation:   218
  • Joined:  12/12/2012
  • Status:  Offline
  • Last Seen:  

I couldn't agree more. My dad was a career soldier and coped with his demons via alcohol. Back then PTSD wasn't even a medical diagnosis as far as I know. But it's only common sense to know how combat can affect people, some being able to cope and apparently others not even suffering. 

 

Having been the victim of an attempted assassination I know the terror life threatening situations can cause. To make it even worse was my life was worth less than free frozen chicken my subordinates had been able to steal beforehand. Talk about making someone feel worthless! At least I was lucky they had spent the circa 200k (in wholesale value) they had already taken and they had to get a couple of really stupid and cheap guys to try and do the job. 

 

But that's a long and complicated story I only bring up to point out that PTSD is something that I personally know can cause serious problems in peoples lives. My incident occurred over over a decade ago and still causes nightmares, although thankfully they lessen over time. I can't even imagine what people who have to spend years under stress have to deal with after the effect one 15 minute span of terror had on me. 

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • Members
Raphael3289

  • Group:  Members
  • Topic Count:  0
  • Content Count:  207
  • Reputation:   39
  • Joined:  11/10/2012
  • Status:  Offline
  • Last Seen:  

Hey there I'm really sorry about your situation man, that just straight up sux! Same thing kinda happened to me not too long ago the only diffrence was that I am the army vet with the PTSD, I got diagnosed with it after my 3rd deployment, an it's a horrible thing that I just have to struggle with for the rest of my life! But anyways I'm really sorry bud and I'm sure everything will work out for ya in the long run

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • Sapphire Sponsor

  • Group:  Sapphire Sponsor
  • Topic Count:  0
  • Content Count:  90
  • Reputation:   14
  • Joined:  11/13/2012
  • Status:  Offline
  • Last Seen:  

Hey there I'm really sorry about your situation man, that just straight up sux! Same thing kinda happened to me not too long ago the only diffrence was that I am the army vet with the PTSD, I got diagnosed with it after my 3rd deployment, an it's a horrible thing that I just have to struggle with for the rest of my life! But anyways I'm really sorry bud and I'm sure everything will work out for ya in the long run

My man Raph......she had 3 deployments also and she was my little italon  marine bombshell who I was so proud of for being a vet too..........the badest chick i ever met and my best friend ever too.....but every 9 months or so things would go kinda haywire and the other her would come out..........and Raph Im proud of you and all the other combat vets in our country who have had to deal with with war and lay there there lives o n the line for all of us every day.............Im sorry youve had struggles and like I said ....know  that all the vets in this country are appreciated and  respected ......for everything uv had to deal with.........thats just a little somthin Raph i want you and everyone to know how I feel about it.............As far as my girl  goes Ill live but this even tho i told her everyday she was perfect she never believed me and i could usally tell when she was gonna lose it and I shoulda pushed harder for her to go to the doc..........but i dropped the ball bad this time but like i said,ill live........i honestly worry about her far more then i do about myself..........ahhhh well the glass is half full,so in the end as long as shes ok somewhere im good:).........I always bounce back

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • Sapphire Sponsor

  • Group:  Sapphire Sponsor
  • Topic Count:  0
  • Content Count:  90
  • Reputation:   14
  • Joined:  11/13/2012
  • Status:  Offline
  • Last Seen:  

I couldn't agree more. My dad was a career soldier and coped with his demons via alcohol. Back then PTSD wasn't even a medical diagnosis as far as I know. But it's only common sense to know how combat can affect people, some being able to cope and apparently others not even suffering. 

 

Having been the victim of an attempted assassination I know the terror life threatening situations can cause. To make it even worse was my life was worth less than free frozen chicken my subordinates had been able to steal beforehand. Talk about making someone feel worthless! At least I was lucky they had spent the circa 200k (in wholesale value) they had already taken and they had to get a couple of really stupid and cheap guys to try and do the job. 

 

But that's a long and complicated story I only bring up to point out that PTSD is something that I personally know can cause serious problems in peoples lives. My incident occurred over over a decade ago and still causes nightmares, although thankfully they lessen over time. I can't even imagine what people who have to spend years under stress have to deal with after the effect one 15 minute span of terror had on me. 

We were together for 4 years and she has a son I basically raised,..............PDSD affects alot of lives thats kinda why I wrote this post......Just so people who dont know about it can realize the severity........

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • Sapphire Sponsor

  • Group:  Sapphire Sponsor
  • Topic Count:  0
  • Content Count:  90
  • Reputation:   14
  • Joined:  11/13/2012
  • Status:  Offline
  • Last Seen:  

Once again thanks everyone thanks for the support,....I consider alot of you guys actual friends and I think this is a very special forum has alot good people in it.......I appreciate everyone for even posting    thanks again

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • Members

  • Group:  Members
  • Topic Count:  0
  • Content Count:  24
  • Reputation:   11
  • Joined:  03/10/2013
  • Status:  Offline
  • Last Seen:  

Wow, you have a really big heart freesmok. She left without notice, and all I'm hearing is compassion and worry for her when you talk about it. You're a good man, and hopefully she will get the help she needs and the two of you can remain best friends, even if you don't stay romantic partners. I wish both of you strength and health!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • V.I.P Member

  • Group:  V.I.P Member
  • Topic Count:  0
  • Content Count:  716
  • Reputation:   218
  • Joined:  12/12/2012
  • Status:  Offline
  • Last Seen:  

brightnail... Well said my friend. But she is having problems that people don't like to admit they have because of the stigmatizing we put on the phrase mental health problems. They are real and as dangerous as any other. She is fortunate to have a good person who is looking out for her well being.

 

All the best to you and her in getting this under control so y'all can enjoy the love you so obviously have for her. It may not be clear to her atm but if she gets the help needed she will look back later and realize how much she meant to you, and will feel the same about you. Then the two of you shall live happily ever after.  :) 

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Archived

This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.


×
×
  • Create New...